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This week, we read about the last three plagues to strike Egypt before our ancestors escaped the tyranny of Pharaoh. The ninth plague, was the plague of darkness.  ”There was thick darkness over the entire land of Egypt for three days. No man could see his brother, nor could any person even rise from his place for three days.” (Exodus 10:22-22)

We are taught that the darkness was not simply the result of lack of light, but also the presence of a thick fog that got worse with time. When the plague of darkness fell upon Egypt, people could not see. Within a few days, we are taught that the darkness was so thick that they could not even move. However, in the Jewish homes, the Torah teaches us that “there was light”.

I believe that the darkness of the ninth plague still persists in our world today. So many people walk around incapable of seeing the incredible world around them, incapable of moving forward and reaching their dreams. This is why Ramat Shalom is so important. Our community emanates light. It cuts through the darkness and the fog and breathes life and energy into each of us. I am so proud of the work we do here and so grateful to each and every single one of you who supports us and makes it possible to keep the lights burning brightly.

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We all know that 10 years ago, on September 11th, 2001, the world stood in horror as the United States was attacked by Al Qaeda.  What you might now know is that our emotions on that dark day and the days that followed were picked up by scientists who were monitoring “random number generators” that usually produce completely unpredictable sequences of zeroes and ones.

These scientists were part of The Global Consciousness Project, an international collaboration of experts who collect data from a worldwide network of 70 random number generators and look for patterns that should not be present in random number sequences.  When patterns are discovered, the scientists associated with the project assert that they reflect the presence and activity of a global consciousness – a collective, unified emotional force that has the ability to create change in this world.

On September 11th and in the days that followed, the random number generators across the globe began to significantly deviate from normal random number sequences and generate numerical patterns.  While many other significant events have caused the random number generators to spit out patterns, the patterns of September 11th were particularly extraordinary.  Scientists report that the probability is less than one in a billion that the patterns were due to chance and, thus, the scientists argue that their data proves the palpable power of our emotions – especially when these emotions are unified by a common event.

But, what happens when our emotions are simply our own?  When we feel something because of a mood or event that we think only affects us?  The Global Consciousness Project documents many major events, showing how the random number generators registered the world’s emotional response to these events.  But, our own private meltdowns, depressions, grumpy episodes and bad hair days are not documented by the Global Consciousness Project.  Does this mean that when we experience emotions apart from others, our emotions, while powerful to us as individuals, have no real power?  Are our emotions simply feelings we experience, feelings that have no effect on the people we share our lives with?

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Tonight, we are taught that G-d is working diligently on the dreaded list – the list of those who will be inscribed in the Book of Life.  This list will be completed and sealed, we are taught, as the sun sets tomorrow evening and, at that moment, our fate, too, will be sealed.

Unetaneh Tokef, the haunting prayer that mentions all the horrific things that might happen to us if we are not sealed in the Book of Life, stresses that while preparing the list of names for the Book of Life, G-d takes into consideration every single detail of our lives – every one of our actions, every one our words, every one of our gestures, every aspect of our behavior from the past year.  God remembers everything – even the stuff we have forgotten.  It all defines who we are and determines if we make it onto the list.

Perhaps some of us have worked hard since Rosh HaShanah and sought forgiveness from others directly, worked to repair relationships that have gone awry this past year and fulfill commitments we have let slide.  This type of work, we are taught, helps to insure that we get inscribed in the Book of Life.

But, Unetaneh Tokef tells us that God remembers the bad stuff we forgot about.  What do we do about this stuff – or worse, what about the bad stuff we did this past year that we were totally oblivious to!?    How do we fix this stuff?

And, while we are asking questions, why not ask why we don’t we get a “pass” on some things?  I mean, no one is perfect – that is a fundamental principal of Judaism. How can we be expected to behave perfectly for an entire year!?  And how can we be expected to repent successfully if we can’t even remember some of the bad things we have done!?

And why does G-d care about every single thing we do?  Isn’t this overkill?

It is if you think the stuff we don’t remember or are unaware of is trivial.

On Yom Kippur, we are forced to acknowledge that every single one of our actions (even those we forget about or are oblivious to) define who we are.  They are all very important.  Nothing is trivial.  On the contrary, every one of our actions affects the world we live in.

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Tom Shadyac is an award-winning Hollywood writer/director of popular movies such as Ace Ventura, The Nutty Professor, Liar, Liar, and Bruce Almighty. Following a bicycle accident in 2007, he suffered from post-concussion syndrome, a condition said to be untreatable and incurable. After months of isolation and virtually no communication from the outside world, his symptoms began to recede and he decided to use his filmmaking skills in a different way – in a serious, insightful way – to share with the world his thoughts on the meaning and the power of life.  The result: his documentary film entitled, I Am, which was released earlier this year.

In the film, Shadyac takes part in “The Yogurt Experiment” under the direction of Dr. Rollin McCraty, an expert on how our emotional wellbeing affects our lives.  Yogurt is a living system and, as such, will register a baseline reading when hooked up to a magnetometer. In the experiment, Shadyac is seated in front of a Petri dish of yogurt that is hooked up to a magnetometer and asked to recall various emotional experiences pertaining to his lawyer, his agent, his ex-wife.  As Shadyac’s emotions change, the magnetometer, which is connected only to the yogurt, changes – suggesting that Shadyac sends out emotional energy that affects the yogurt causing the needle on the magnetometer to move.

Shadyac’s interaction with the yogurt suggests that something as simple as a bad thought can affect those we share our lives with.   Now, you know this to be true!  You have been around someone who is in a bad place and they sap you of your good energy.  They drag you down and you, in turn, wind up dragging others down as a result…and a chain reaction of negativity takes place….Our negative thoughts and emotions have the potential to do the opposite of tikun olam – healing the world.  Our negative thoughts and emotions can hurt the world, by hurting one person at a time.

I hear some of you, “Oh come on, you are going to tell me that you are going to use some ex-Hollywood guy’s crazy experiment with yogurt to prove your point this Yom Kippur….”

Okay, I hear you…

So, let’s turn our attention to quantum physics – a topic that I am far from an expert on.  But, I have done some research on the “Entanglement Theory” – which, in a nutshell, teaches us that when two electrons are created together – and one is moved to the other side of the world – when something affects one electron causing it to react – the other one reacts as well.  Space, according to the “Entanglement Theory”, is an illusion.  The electrons are still very much connected.  Given that according to both religion and science we all come from the same source and, thus, so do the particles that define us, many suggest that the “Entanglement Theory” applies to us.  When we feel something, it affects others.  We are all entangled.  No event in our life only affects us.

Dr. Barbara Fredrickson, the Kenan Distinguished Professor of Psychology and Principal Investigator of the Positive Emotions and Psychophysiology Lab at the University of North Carolina, is a leading scholar within social psychology, affective science, and positive psychology. Her research centers on positive emotions and human flourishing and is supported by grants from the National Institute of Health.

Dr. Fredrickson has discovered that experiencing positive emotions in a 3-to-1 ratio with negative ones leads people to become more resilient to adversity and effortlessly achieve what they once could only imagine. Fredrickson’s research shows us that surrounding ourselves with positive emotions, and, thus, people who exude positive emotions, affects us!  These positive emotions enable us to see new possibilities, bounce back from setbacks, connect with others, and become the best version of ourselves.  Negative emotions do just the opposite.

So low and behold, quantum physics and the research of Dr. Fredrickson and many other experts only support the basic premise of Tom Shadyac’s interaction with yogurt.  Our emotions not only affect us, but the people around us.  Scientifically proven.  But, really, we all know this to be true from our own personal interactions.

Our negative behavior does not just belong to us.  When we are in a bad mood for whatever reason, we share it, like a bad cold, with the people in our life who, in turn, pick up on it and wind up sharing it with people in their life who share it with other.  Our bad mood in the morning can affect how our kids act at school, affect how we drive and, thus, affect other drivers on the road, affect our co-workers, affect how we treat our waitress at lunch, the cashier at Publix on the way home….and all those people we affected, they will pick up some of our negativity – grumbling about us or something we did, in turn, transferring our bad mood to somebody else.  Our bad mood has the power to affect a whole heck of a lot of people.  And, in the same way, our good mood has the power to affect a whole heck of a lot of people – in positive ways.

Hard to believe that we have so much power?

Well, let’s turn to science again:

In 1961, Edward Lorenz, a scientist, was using a numerical computer model to rerun a weather prediction, when, as a shortcut on a number in the sequence, he entered the decimal .506 instead of entering the full .506127. The result was a completely different weather scenario.

In a 1963 paper for the New York Academy of Sciences, Lorenz discusses this fascinating discovery.  He states that: “one meteorologist remarked that the findings suggest that one flap of a seagull’s wings could change the course of weather forever.” Later speeches and papers by Lorenz used the more poetic “flap of a butterfly’s wings”.   And the “butterfly effect” was born.

The butterfly effect refers to the idea that a butterfly’s wings might create tiny changes in the atmosphere that may ultimately alter the path of a tornado or delay, accelerate or even prevent the occurrence of a tornado in another location.

Our moods, the emotions associated with them and the way these emotions determine our actions, words, and behavior – have the potential to be just like a butterfly’s wings – affecting the person next to us, who, in turn, interacts with others and affects them.  Thus, our individual emotions have the potential to change an entire community of people for better or for worse.

Unfortunately, most of us are oblivious to the incredible power that our emotions have – particularly our negative emotions.  Do you remember every bad mood you were in last year?  Were you even aware how your bad moods affected the people around you?  Could you list every single person you treated poorly the last time you were in a bad mood, including the guy you unknowingly cut off on Broward Blvd. as you screamed into your cell phone at the person who got you into such a bad mood in the first place?  We foolishly think that our negative emotions are ours and ours alone.  But, we are wrong.  Our emotions, as private and personal as we might think they are, can transform others.  And this is what Tom Shadyac was trying to teach his audience with the yogurt experiment.  And this is what Unetaneh Tokef is trying to teach us by stating that G-d pays attention to everything – even the stuff we forget.

We are a lot more important, a lot more powerful, a lot more influential than we have been told we are.  One negative word from our mouth, one disdainful glance, one bad hair day can be the flap of a butterfly’s wings, quietly reeking havoc by hurting one person ever so slightly and causing them to behave in a way that hurts someone else and a chain reaction begins that causes our negative action to affect who knows how many people.

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I admit that I wrestle with the idea that G-d is up there evaluating us and writing a list tonight.  I am more comfortable believing that when we lead a life based upon God’s teachings and values – we inscribe ourselves in the Book of Life.  This being said, the fear and dread associated with believing that G-d is up there writing a list is an extremely important part of this awesome day.  It is this fear and dread that forces us to recognize that everything we do affects the world around us.  Our emotional outbursts, our quiet rage, our unspoken jealousy, our disdain towards others, our pessimism, our negativity affect us and the people around us.  Our individual emotions and actions might not affect the random number generators scattered across the globe….but they will affect our family, friends, co-workers and just about anybody else we come in contact with.  The lesson of this Day of Judgment is that just one negative action on our part can and will hurt the world because others will be hurt by our action.

As we stand in judgment tonight and strive to become better people, I want you to imagine yourself in the year ahead living a life in which you are in control of your emotions, you watch your words and you act always out of love and compassion.  It is something to aspire to.  Not easy – but unquestionably something we can each do.  It is not impossible.  And, I believe, if each of us in this room tonight were able to live a life like this – all 700 plus of us…we would get the attention of the random number generators; they would respond, picking up on a change in positive energy in Plantation…and this energy would, like the scientific research shows us, affect others in our lives…and it would spread, slowly, one person at a time – bringing positive change to the world.

I know it is hard to imagine this – a life where the glass is always half full, a life where negative thoughts and deeds are pushed aside, a life filled with a powerful, contagious positive energy….but I do believe this life is possible.  And the prayers of Yom Kippur teach us that G-d expects us to strive for such a life and embrace this positive energy.  It is why we are told that every single one of our actions is judged tonight.  G-d expects a lot from us.  G-d knows we can be better than we are now.  G-d knows that the negativity that fills so many of our lives doesn’t have to be.  This is why we have this day – this day where we are forced to look inwards and grow and change.  Now, we simply have to believe that we can do better – that we have the ability to do better for ourselves and the people who fill our lives.

No, our individual emotions, behavior, thoughts, words and deeds won’t affect the random number generators.  But, our emotions, behavior, thoughts, words and deeds will affect each other.  They are right now.  Tonight, we have the opportunity to discover that we have the power to lift each other up and positively change each other’s lives.  I say we go for it – one set of butterfly wings at a time.  I hope that you agree.

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As Moses prepares for the end of his life with the knowledge that he will not cross into Israel, he implores his people to remain connected to G-d once they enter the Promised Land:

“Take care lest your forget the Lord, your G-d … and you build good houses and … you increase silver and gold … and everything you have will increase … and you will forget the Lord, your G-d, who took you out of … Egypt from a house of slavery…” (Deuteronomy 8:11-14)

Moses’ fear that the Israelites would forget about G-d once they were home and all was “good” was understandable. People often turn to G-d only when things go badly. Many of us know this firsthand. During the hard times, we ask G-d for help, guidance and strength. Some of us blame G-d for our struggles. But, once the clouds disappear and life is good again, how many of us give G-d credit for the good stuff? How many of us even pause to thank G-d when everything is going our way? Very few of us do. During the good times, most of us credit our success and good fortune to our hard work, determination and strength. G-d doesn’t get any credit! This is human nature: when we find ourselves in a jam, we quickly seek help from others or blame them for our failures but when we succeed – the victory is ours and ours alone.

When it comes to G-d, many flock to the synagogue, seek the counsel of a rabbi or immerse themselves in prayer when life becomes chaotic. Just like the Israelites in the desert who cried out to G-d when they felt hopeless, when the chips are down, we tend to believe that G-d is all-powerful and capable of making things better for us. I see it all the time. Life’s challenges bring people closer to G-d. Personal crises often bring people into the synagogue. They become regular service attendees as they work through their challenges with the strength, courage and hope that one can find with G-d’s help. But, once their problems work themselves out, these folks stop coming. They go back to their carefree life, putting G-d on hold until the next bump in the road. Again, this is human nature. When the going gets tough, the tough get going. But, as Tommy Lasorda said, “when the going gets good, watch out! You might be going downhill”!

Moses understood human nature. He would have liked Tommy Lasorda’s words. We can imagine Moses incorporating Lasorda’s words into his own:

When the going gets good in the land of Israel, please don’t forget who freed you from the darkness of Egypt! Don’t forget who you cried out to on those frightening nights in the desert. Don’t forget who brought you into the land and answered your prayers! Once you forget, once you start seeing your success, your joy, your abundance as simply the result of your own actions you will walk away from G-d. And once you walk away from G-d – you are going downhill.

Now, for those of us in the progressive Jewish world, Moses’ warning might sound silly. You might be thinking: “God has nothing to do with my success. Everything I have I got because of my hard work – not because of Divine intervention!” Really? If this is so, I hope I don’t catch you praying to G-d, asking G-d to fix something, heal someone or fill you with strength. I hope you don’t blame G-d when something happens and the success disappears! If G-d can be blamed for the bad stuff and called upon to make things better, G-d must be thanked, appreciated and given credit for all the incredible blessings that fill our lives.

As many of you know, I struggle with the idea that G-d has the power to cause turmoil in our lives. I don’t believe that G-d makes bad things happen to good people. However, I do believe that G-d is there for us when the bad things happen. I do believe that G-d can fill us with strength at these times and be with us as we move away from the bad things and towards to the good things. I also believe that G-d is very much a part of the good things – the beautiful times, the successful moments and the personal victories. So, I – a progressive Jew – believe, with all my heart and soul that we can call out to G-d when we are lost and need guidance as long as we heed Moses’ advice and sing out to G-d when we are joyful. If we fail to do the latter, we disconnect from G-d, the Source of all that is amazing and spectacular, and we start going downhill. When we disconnect from G-d, the beauty in this world loses its holiness. As we take G-d out of our accomplishments, we grow self-centered and push G-d aside. We abandon our source of strength, creativity and determination. We move forward, but, at some point along the way, the going gets tough. We need Divine inspiration or just spiritual comfort and we discover that we left G-d somewhere behind us. We are alone. At this point, we know we have gone downhill. And so we do what we do when things get bad: we run back up the hill to find G-d.

If only we could heed Moses’ advice and keep G-d in our lives during the good times. We know from Moses’ words that our ancestors struggled to do this. And we know that we are really no different from our ancestors. We struggle to give G-d credit for everything in our lives. If we would allow ourselves to get past this struggle and appreciate that G-d is both the source of our strength and our blessings, we would allow ourselves to discover that G-d can always be by our side, guiding us through the ups and downs of life, embracing us, celebrating with us, inspiring us. This discovery would keep us from having to waste time and energy running back up the hill to G-d. Instead, if we allow G-d to be by our side during the ups and downs, we will find that we only move forward up and down the hills of life, discovering the true meaning of Godspeed.

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“You will see My back but My face shall not be seen.”

Exodus 33:23

This verse is spoken by Gd to Moses after Moses begs Gd to “show me Your glory!”  Moses desperately wants to see Gd, but all he gets is Gd’s back.

There are moments in our lives when we would be happy to simply get a glimpse of Gd’s back.  At least this glimpse would be proof that indeed Gd exists.  At the most challenging moments in our lives, being able to experience Gd would be incredibly comforting.  All too often, at these challenging moments, we wonder where Gd is.

I have experienced my share of challenging moment.  In January, 1994, I was living in the San Fernando Valley when the 6.7 Northridge earthquake struck.  I lost my apartment and had to relocate with what I could salvage from my home.  As most of you know, I was living in New York on 9/11.  I saw one of the planes moments before it struck the World Trade Center.  I was one of the first clergy to enter the burn unit at Cornell Medical Center – the unit that received the handful of severely injured survivors who were pulled from the World Trade Center. I, like many of you, lived through the damaging effects of Hurricane Wilma.  And, of course, as a rabbi, I have sat with many families after the loss of a loved one has left them in shock.

During all of these traumatic moments, I found myself asking “why?”, searching for answers and looking for Gd.  There are no good answers that explain any tragedy.  And finding Gd during the darkest hours is often a futile, frustrating effort.  What I have come to understand, however, is that this effort becomes less challenging the farther away from the event you get.

While I will never forget the feeling of hopelessness I had while walking the streets of New York the week after 9/11, the images of brave rescue workers, determined health care professionals, and flag filled neighborhoods are etched into my mind forever.  In the same way, while the negative memories of the Northridge earthquake and Hurricane Wilma will never go away, these negative memories now blend with the beautiful memories of caring neighbors, the power of community and the joy of the electricity coming back on.  And, the darkest moments in our synagogue’s life are forever countered by the power of memory and shivah minyans and, of course, the incredible strength that those left behind have to turn tragedy and heartbreak into blessing.

My experiences have taught me that while we usually can’t find Gd during a crisis, time empowers us to discover that Gd was indeed with us all along.  This is what the Torah is teaching us by explaining that Moses was only able to see Gd’s back.  We are no different than Moses.  There are times that we can only appreciate Gd’s presence after it has passed us by. Gd is with us during the tragic moments – present in the strength of individuals, the power of community and the human determination to survive.  It is only when get through the darkness that we can look behind us and realize that we were in the presence of Gd all along.  At the time, when Gd’s face was before us, we were not able to realize what we were looking at.  Thank goodness we have the gift of memory that enable us to appreciate Gd’s back.

 

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Today, when we talk about olive oil, we are usually talking about salad dressings or the health benefits of monounsaturated fatty acids and antioxidants.  This Shabbat, however, when we read about olive oil in the Torah, we are reading about the fuel that was used to kindle the lamps in the ancient, desert sanctuary.  According to the Torah, this fuel was to be “pure, virgin” olive oil.  Today, pure, virgin olive oil refers to oil that contains very little acid content and was not refined or produced with chemicals.
But things were different in ancient times.

In ancient Israel, olive oil was doubly graded. The first grade was based upon the tree position of the olive from which the oil was extracted.  The higher the olive was on the tree, the riper it would be; the riper the olive, the better the oil. The second grade was based upon the purity of the oil.  Oil purity was determined largely by the means used to extract the oil from the olive.  The purest oil was the first drop squeezed from the olive.  Lower categories of oil included  oil extracted by pressing or crushing the olives.Based upon this, it would be safe to assume that the “pure, virgin” oil described in this week’s Torah portion – oil used to kindle the lamps in the ancient sanctuary – must have consisted of the first drops of oil squeezed from olives that were picked from tops of olive trees.  But this might not have been the case.

According to the Talmud, the location of the olive on the tree was not important.  While an olive at the top of a tree was likely to be riper than an olive at the bottom of a tree and, thus, more likely to yield better oil than the oil at the bottom of the tree, the Talmud teaches that what really determined the quality of an olive’s oil was the manner it which the oil was extracted.  Thus, the first drop squeezed from an olive at the bottom of a tree could be used to kindle the lights in the ancient sanctuary.  Oil that was extracted by crushing an olive that grew at the top of the tree could not be used to kindle the lights.  The holiness of the oil had nothing to do with the “status” of the olive but, rather, the way the oil was harvested.

What can we learn from this today?

No matter what our position is in the various different communities, organizations and groups that we are a part of – we have the potential to do, say or create something truly remarkable.  While we might be the lowest guy on the totem pole, our skills, creativity and effort can produce something that outshines the guys at the top.  When God gives us lemons, we are taught to make lemonade.  This week’s Torah portion teaches us a slightly different lesson: if God gives us low-hanging olives – squeeze out the highest quality olive oil.

 

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So Moses came and told the people all the words of the Lord and all the ordinances, and all the people answered in unison and said, “All the words that the Lord has spoken we will do.” Exodus 23:3

Last week, we read the Ten Commandments that were given to our ancestors by G-d at Mount Sinai. This week we read the additional laws, rules and ordinances that were given at Mt. Sinai. We also read the verse above which captures the moment our ancestors committed themselves to G-d’s laws. Certainly there have been times when we have questioned and challenged this commitment. Yet, we have continued to honor it for thousands of years.

In today’s world, commitments are easily broken. If promises and obligations that we were once morally and/or legally responsible to fulfill become too challenging, we often find excuses to back out of these promises and obligations. Certainly, there are times when doing so is valid. Sadly, most of the time, we do so simply because we are selfish: living up to our responsibilities requires us to behave in a manner that benefits the commitments we have made as opposed to benefiting ourselves. When it comes to committing ourselves to someone or something, selfishness has no place. Commitment requires placing a relationship above individual needs and wants. Commitment requires us to ask, “what is best for us” as opposed to “what is best for me”.

Given all of this, I was inspired by a rather unlikely source of inspiration – American Idol. If you haven’t seen this, you must take a moment to watch it. It reminds us what true commitment is all about.

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This Shabbat we read the story of Mt. Sinai – the great moment of revelation when Gd speaks to Moses and the Jewish people, teaching them the Ten Commandments.  We are taught that, to this day, Gd’s voice continues to issue forth from Mt. Sinai – calling upon us all to live up to our highest potential.

 

Does anyone hear Gd’s voice today as it resonates from Mount Sinai?

Given that archeologists are not certain where Mount Sinai is, it is pretty clear that no one hears the Voice.  And, if you claim to hear the voice, many will accuse you of being crazy.

 

Despite this, it is so important to point out that the great Baal Shem Tov, a mystical rabbi who lived during the 18th century, insists that we all hear the voice and when we do, we are not crazy.  The Baal Shem Tov teaches that every time that an unexpected thought, idea or impulse just pops into our head, a thought, idea or impulse that leads us in a positive direction, inspires us -we have heard the voice of Gd calling from Mount Sinai.

 

What the Baal Shem Tov refers to as God’s voice, some might call our creativity or our conscience.  But to assume that the thoughts, ideas and impulses that have the ability to change our lives originate from within us is arrogant.  This world is filled with tremendous wisdom, much of it being grounded in Torah and the story told at Mount Sinai.  At times, we are lucky enough to be engaged by this wisdom.  The wisdom ignites something within us and changes us.  It is at these moments, when we come in contact with wisdom that we have the ability to hear voice of Gd – the source of all wisdom, speaking to us, teaching us, changing us.

 

May you find the time to listen for the voice of Gd.

 

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“The entire community of the children of Israel complained against Moses”

Exodus 16:2

This has been a terrible week.  We are all troubled by the murder and destruction in Arizona.  The death of Debbie Friedman, a pioneer in Jewish music, has rocked the Jewish world.  Personally, one of our dogs has been in the animal hospital clinging to life as a result of a rare disorder.  On top of this, I began my week in the ER, receiving 6 stitches to my foot. I have spent the rest of the week in an attractive foot boot, hobbling around on crutches.

This week the Torah teaches us that our ancestors were incapable of seeing the glass half-full.  The minute the Israelites leave Egypt and the pain and suffering that must have been a part of their lives in that country, they begin complaining to Moses.  “Why did you take us out of Egypt!  We had it good there compared to our new life in the desert!”  How quickly they forget the work and abuse associated with being slaves of Pharaoh!  How easily they saw the challenges of their new life, a life of freedom, as being worse than life as slaves.  Granted, they were hot, hungry, thirsty and tired in the desert – but they were free.  As we read this story it is so easy to think: “How ungrateful and short-sighted our ancestors were!” We forget, however, that we can so easily identify with their misery.

This has been a terrible week.  A week that saw violence on the national stage, the silencing of a musical inspiration on the Jewish stage and emotional and physical challenges on my personal stage.  I confess, this week, I complained to God.  I asked: “WHY!?”

Of course, there are no real answers during the challenging times.  There are blessings however.  During weeks like these, we need to cling to the good things in life: the heroic efforts of those in Arizona; the immortal music of Debbie Friedman; the fact that my stitches will be out in just a few days and I will still be able to run my marathon; and the fact that my family has been fortunate enough to have an incredible veterinary team looking after our dog.

But when we are truly challenged, we can’t see the blessings.  We act like our ancestors did upon fleeing Egypt.  All we can do is focus on the negative.  Sometimes the negative stuff is so overwhelming, it is hard to focus on anything else.  The bad seems to outweigh the good.  It becomes all-consuming.  This is what happened to me this week.  But, as Shabbat gets closer and I reflect upon this week’s Torah portion and the complaints of our ancestors as they left Egypt, I realize that while the bad stuff has been really heavy this week – the good stuff is there.  
As I give myself time to appreciate the good stuff, I realize that it is beautiful.

I pray that this Shabbat, my family and I can focus on the blessings in our lives and experience the simple joy of being together.  And I pray that each and every single one of you can do exactly the same thing.

For many of us, this has been a terrible week.  But, it has also been pretty amazing.  The fact that I can write these words and you can read them is all the proof we need.

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This month shall be to you the head of the months; to you it shall be the first of the months of the year. (Exodus 12:2)

As we read the Torah this Shabbat, we read the story of Pesah – the story of our ancestors fleeing Egypt and beginning their long journey to Israel. As the journey begins, a new month begins and Gd explains to Moses that this new month will mark the beginning of a new year – a new beginning for the Israelite people. Tradition teaches us that at the moment Gd told Moses that a new month was beginning, Gd pointed out that the moon was beginning her cycle again. A new moon, explained Gd, was the sign of a new month.

We just began a new month in Judaism this week – the month of Shevat. And, in a few days, we will celebrate Tu B’Shevat – the 15th of Shevat – the new year of trees. Just like Moses, we know Shevat began this week because the moon began her cycle again. With good eyesight and clear skies, you should be able to see the new moon in the sky tonight.

The moon is incredibly important in Judaism. It helps determine our months, years, holidays – all of our holy times. Why the moon? Why not the all-powerful sun? Why an object so much smaller than the sun? An object that is forever changing – and sometimes even disappearing from the night sky? An object that does not give off its own light – but rather reflects the light of the sun?

Because, the moon captures the essence of humanity.

We are not all-powerful. We are constantly changing and evolving. There are days when we feel whole and days when we feel like a fragment of ourselves. There are even days when we disappear into the darkness of night. But, if we persevere, we know that we will shine again – our light will only get stronger. And where does our light come from? It comes from the world around us. We can’t live alone. We need others in our lives. We need relationships. We need interaction. These are the things that fill our lives with light. And this is the light that we reflect back into the world – light that makes the world a more beautiful place.

At the beginning of every month, Judaism teaches us to bless the new month saying: And Gd told the moon to renew herself, as a crown of beauty to those He carries from the womb (meaning humanity), for they (we) are likewise to be renewed. Each month our tradition reminds us we get a new beginning – a new beginning to grow stronger and fill the world with incredible light.

This new Jewish month – this new secular year – may it be a time of renewal for all of us. And may we all grow stronger each day, filling the world with the light we receive.

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Why were Adam and Eve banished from the Garden of Eden?

Usually, the answer is: “because they ate from the Tree of Knowledge”.  Indeed, the first humans did eat from this tree – a tree that God told the couple not to eat from.  After being enticed by the serpent, Eve disobeys God and eats the fruit of the Tree of Knowledge and has Adam do the same.  Once they do so, the Torah tells us that their eyes were opened.

Prior to this point. Adam and Eve were pretty much clueless about the world around them.  They were God’s puppets.  They had no concept of right and wrong.  But, upon eating from the Tree of Knowledge – they gained the ability to discern between good and bad.  They immediately developed a sense of morality.  This is why the very first thing that Adam and Eve do after eating the fruit is sew together fig leaves to cover their nakedness.

God was certainly angry with the first couple for violating His orders and eating from Tree of Knowledge.  Adam and Eve were no longer clueless.  Given that they could determine between right and wrong, they now had the ability to make their own decisions and did not need to rely upon God.  In essence, they cut the puppet strings that were controlled by God.  And this filled God with rage.  But, this is not the reason He banishes the couple from the Garden of Eden.

God banishes them because His supreme authority was now threatened by the couple.  There was, according to the Torah, just one thing that separated Adam and Eve from God: immortality.  Their ability to know good and bad made Adam and Eve god-like.  If they were to live forever, they could become gods themselves.  And the problem was that in the Garden of Eden stood the Tree of Life.  If they were to eat from this tree, like they did from the Tree of Knowledge, well, they would gain immortality.  They had to be kept from that tree.  And so, God banishes them from the Garden of Eden insuring that His sovereignty would remain intact.

Despite the fact that Adam and Eve didn’t get us immortality, they still gave us all a tremendous gift.  By eating from the Tree of Knowledge, they gave us the skills needed to use the brain in our head.  They gave us the ability to make decision and, thus, the ability to act.  By breaking God’s rule, Adam and Eve gave us free will.  God does not control our actions – says the Torah.  The idea that our lives are controlled by God – that we are God’s tools – put here for a Divine purpose – this is not what this week’s parasha teaches us.  On the contrary, this week’s story teaches us that we have to make our own decisions.

All too often, I hear God get blamed for our poor choices.  Whether it be something huge and catastrophic like the Holocaust or something much smaller like a personal financial crisis – God is easy to blame.  “Why God!  Why are you doing this to me!?  Maybe You are testing me God!  Please God get me out of this!”  The story we read in the Torah this week makes it explicitly clear that with the exception of many illnesses, we are the masters of our destiny.  We are the ones who get ourselves into most of the situations we find ourselves in.  Poor choices – choices we had the power to make – present us with many of the challenges we have to face today.  (And we can make choices that get us out of these challenging times!) The current economic situation is a perfect example of this.  In this way, Adam and Eve’s gift of freewill has the potential to be a curse.  Our ability to make our own choices comes with ups and downs.

We learn this week that we are created in the image of God.  What this means is not totally clear.  Somehow we were created as a representation of God.  We know from the story of Adam and Eve – we were not created originally with knowledge or immortality.  Within the first generation of our existence – we gained that knowledge.  We are left with our own mortality.

While some would say we are left with the curse mortality, I prefer to think of it as being left with the blessing of a finite life.  Unfortunately, I believe that many of the problems we find ourselves facing today – personal and global problems – are the result of the fact that we fail to comprehend that we are mortal.  We go about our days thinking that we are, indeed, immortal.  And, thus, we don’t think about the ramifications of our actions.

We say things to people without giving a thought to the possibility that the words we shared might very well be the last words we ever share with these people.  We don’t ask ourselves: will my words accurately reflect how I feel about these people?

We do things that foster our own egos and advance our own selfish interests.  But we often do these things without thinking about the effects of our actions and the legacy that our actions will leave when we are gone.  We don’t ask ourselves: what will my actions tell the world about who I really was?

If we were immortal, perhaps it wouldn’t matter what we said or what we did.  We would always have tomorrow to fix things and try again.  We wouldn’t have to worry about the harm our actions might bring us.  But, we never got a chance to eat from that Tree of Life.  And, for that, we have to thank God – because, by keeping us from becoming gods ourselves, God has insured that our lives are finite.  A life with a beginning and an end should force us to make each and every single day the best day that it can be.  Our mortality urges us to make goals and aspire for great things.  It pleads with us to use our knowledge and free will to make the most out of our days and maximize each moment.

But, most of us don’t do this.  We think we know it all.  And, this week’s Torah portion, in some ways, supports this.  We do know it all or at least have the potential to know it all, thanks to Adam and Eve eating from the Tree of Knowledge.  But that’s not why we were kicked out of the Garden of Eden.  We were kicked out to keep us mortal.  We know that we are – but we don’t like to admit it.  This week’s Torah portion is a very important reminder that we, unlike God, have a beginning and an ending – just like the year we have now started. This week’s portion tosses our mortality in our face.  But not in a spiteful way.  Rather as a gentle reminder to appreciate this temporary gift we have each been given.  May we all learn to appreciate our life and make each day a blessing.

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