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Valentine’s Day, is tomorrow.  As most of you know, there is nothing Jewish about Valentine’s Day. The holiday is named after one or more early Christian martyrs named Saint Valentine, and was established by Pope Gelasius I in 496 CE.  One legend teaches that Valentine was a priest who served during the third century in Rome. When the Roman Emperor decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families, he outlawed marriage for young men. Valentine, realizing the injustice of the decree, defied the Emperor and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret. When Valentine’s actions were discovered, the Emperor ordered that he be put to death. According to another legend, Valentine actually sent the first “valentine” greeting himself. While in prison, Valentine fell in love with a young girl who visited him during his confinement. Before his death, it is alleged that he wrote her a letter, which he signed “From your Valentine,” an expression that is still in use today. Although the truth behind the Valentine legends is murky, the stories certainly emphasize his appeal as a sympathetic, heroic, and, most importantly, romantic figure. It’s no surprise that by the Middle Ages, Valentine was one of the most popular saints in England and France and Valentine’s Day still remains a popular holiday. 

Despite the non-Jewish origins of this holiday, many Jews celebrate Valentine’s Day in some fashion.  I certainly have no problem with this given that expressing our love and affection for our spouses, partners and other important people in our lives is very Jewish.  What does trouble me is that most Jews do not know that we have our own Jewish “Day of Love”- known as Tu B’Av.  It falls on the 15th day of the Jewish month of Av, which this year falls on August 3rd

 Tu B’Av began during the second Temple period (before the fall of Jerusalem in 70 CE).  It was a matchmaking day for unmarried women who would go out dressed in white and dance in the vineyards while saying: “Young man, consider whom you choose (to be your wife)!

Tu B’Av, like several Jewish holidays begins on the night between the 14th and 15th day of the Hebrew month.  This the night of the full moon in our lunar calendar. Linking the night of a full moon with romance, love, and fertility was not uncommon in ancient cultures and clearly embraced by Judaism.

After the destruction of Jerusalem in 70C CE, the only way Tu B’Av was celebrated was that the morning prayer service on that day did not include any penitence prayers, stressing that this was a day of joy.  With the re-establishment of Israel in 1948, Tu B’Av began to make a comeback.  Modern Israeli culture promotes festivals of singing and dancing on the night of Tu B’Av. Israelis give cards and flowers to their loved ones on Tu BAv and the date is popular for weddings. Last year, the Israeli homepage for Google featured hearts placed in the Google icon.

So for those of you who can’t get enough of Valentine’s Day, mark your calendars – Tu B’Av 2012 is August 3rd!!!

In this podcast, I discuss the situation with Iran, comparing it to the moment our ancestors stood at the Red Sea – before it parted – with Pharaoh’s army quickly advancing upon them.  G-d told the Jewish people to go forward!  G-d is not going to part this sea for us this time.  It is up to us.  And it is time to go forward!

Click here for podcast: IRAN

So, I watched the videos and read the links that others shared regarding the BDS Movement.  Thank you for sharing.  I also watched videos from the PennBDS conference.  I must say that I am disappointed that no one out there in cyber world who counts him/herself as a BDS supporter responded to the questions/concerns/links that I shared yesterday.   I know everyone is busy and if I were not leading a series of workshops dealing with the delegitimization of Israel on college campuses, I probably would not be spending so much time on this.  This being said, I shared my concerns with this group and would like to get some feedback from those who support BDS please.

 

My homework over the past two days has not only validated my concerns but also elevated them.  The video featuring J.J, Goldberg, Hannah Mermelstein, Kathleen Peratis and Yonatan Shapira (http://www.cctv.org/watch-tv/programs/jewish-perspectives-boycott-divestment-sanctions-bds-campaign) disturbed me greatly not just because of the anti-Zionist sentiments that were expressed in the video but also because of the hatred of Israel that was expressed in the video and the tremendous distortion of the facts by speakers.  I shared the video with my regular Tuesday study group this morning.  This group consists of many long-term Reconstructionists – and to say that they left upset would be an understatement.  I also watched Ali Abunimah’s keynote speech at PennBDS (http://electronicintifada.net/blogs/ali-abunimah/video-my-penn-bds-speech-and-how-zionist-filmmaker-pretended-be-canadas-cbc).  His demonization of Israel was over the top.

 

Overall, the videos make it clear to me that the ultimate goal of BDS, a goal explained by Abunimah, Mermelstein and Shapira, is to dismantle the Jewish State of Israel and replace it with a new, “democratic”, pluralistic society – a society that is not a Jewish homeland.  This would be the death of Zionism and a horrific loss for the Jewish people.

 

While I am no J-Street supporter, I found myself cheering on Peratis as she said she is committed to a two state solution that includes a Jewish State. 

 

As I see it, one of the huge problems with the BDS movement and many other anti-Israel causes is an issue Daniel Gordis talks a lot about: the faulty assumption that when it comes to democracy, Israel is a Hebrew-speaking, mini-America.   On the contrary, Israel is not like the democracy that we live in here and, if it remains a Jewish State, it never will be. This is a challenging reality for many liberal American Jews – one that must be discussed.

 

The very nature of Israel is to be a Jewish homeland that, in turn, gives Jews a favored status.  This is, as Gordis explains, an “ethnic democracy” which is a democratic system described by Professor Sammy Smooha of the University of Haifa (http://hevra.haifa.ac.il/~soc/lecturers/smooha/files/1572.pdf). 

 

An ethnic democracy is one that “combines the extension of civil and political rights to permanent residents who wish to be citizens with the bestowal of a favored status on the majority group.”  In an ethnic democracy, “the state belongs to the majority and serves it more than the minority.” Israel is not the only ethnic democracy out there.  Latvia and Estonia, Malaysia and Slovakia are also ethnic democracies.  Many consider an ethnic democracy a “diminished” form of democracy and thus many don’t like it.  But, Gordis points out that Professor Smooha, who is a Jew, a critic of ethnic democracy and a passionate defender of the rights of Israel’s Arabs, admits that “the democratic framework is real and not a façade.”  It is part of the reality that is this on-going Jewish project that many of us love with all our hearts and souls – this project we call Israel.

 

I have been thinking a lot about this idea of “ethnic democracy”.  As a congregational rabbi of a liberal synagogue that praises itself on being a democratic, welcoming institution – we, as a congregation, are an “ethnic democracy”.  Our constitution forbids a non-Jew from holding certain board positions including the positions of President and Ritual Chair.  While non-Jews can be members, they are not granted full rights and 99% of the time are expected to be partnered with a Jew.  Non-Jews can’t take part in all aspects of our services.  We will not grant membership to Jews-for-Jesus – this has been discussed – and anyone else who has no “real connection” to Judaism.  We will not enroll students in our religious school unless they are being raised solely as Jews.  In order to become a Jew (not just at Ramat Shalom), we expect people to pledge loyalty to Judaism and renounce all other religions before a beit din.  Once one becomes a Jew, they are given full rights.  Is it fair to compare a synagogue to Israel? Probably not – but there is no question that my congregation is an “ethnic democracy”. (I also think about my days as a Vassar tour guide – telling people that while the school went co-ed in 1969, officials will never allow men to outnumber women because this would change the character of the school.)

 

I know that Israel has many issues to address when it comes to her non-Jewish citizens.  This being said, I accept the fact that Israel is not and will never be a mini-America.  Israel is an ethnic democracy and must remain one in order to remain a Jewish State.  And I always want there to be a Jewish State.

 

I believe, unlike Mermelstein, Shapira and Abunimah, that we Jews need our own nation, our own safe place, our own haven.  Sorry, I don’t believe that the Holocaust is in the rearview mirror.  I believe “Never Again!” and I don’t believe this makes me paranoid.  I believe it makes me a realist.  I also believe that we are entitled to the nation that was created by the UN in 1947.  And I believe that Israel had and still has the right to defend herself.  And I believe that Israel has the right to resolve unsettled territorial disputes that were the result of numerous attacks upon her sovereignty in a manner that insures her safety and her security.  I believe that Israel has the right to be a Jewish State and uphold the law of return for Jews while preventing the return of Palestinian refugees.

 

Because of this, I find the BDS Movement, which singles out, demonizes and delegitimizes the Jewish State and endorses (through BDS) the punishment of the citizens of the Jewish State as a means to achieve its ultimate goal, being the dismantling of the Jewish State, to be not only (obviously) anti-Zionist, but, yes, anti-Semitic.  Please note I said I find the MOVEMENT to be anti-Semitic.  I can’t pretend to know the motivations of individuals who support BDS.  But I can say this: the BDS Movement is committed to end Jewish self-determination in the Jewish homeland officially given to the Jewish people by the United Nations 65 years ago.  (see Professor Dina Porat’s (Tel Aviv University) article “Defining Anti-Semitism in which she argues that denying Jews the right to self-determination by saying Israel is a racist endeavor is anti-Semitic, http://www.tau.ac.il/Anti-Semitism/asw2003-4/porat.htm) Attacking Israel’s right to exist as a Jewish State, comparing it to a Nazi State, applying double standards not expected of other nations (as opposed to working to change Israeli governmental policies) is widely accepted as anti-Semitism.  And when a Jew stands with, supports, gives a platform to the BDS Movement s/he legitimizes this anti-Semitism.  And this brings me back to my original post in which I said: “I fail to understand, am embarrassed by, and am, quite frankly, tired of having to explain to my congregants, the desire among some of my Jewish colleagues to aid those determined to destroy Israel.”



To my Jewish colleagues who have stood up and supported the Boycott, Divest and Sanction movement:

I am an openly, proud Zionist.  I love Israel.  While I know she, like every nation, is imperfect, she has the right to exist, in peace, as a Jewish State.  I am infuriated by the countless efforts to delegitimize, slander and destroy Israel.

Let me make myself clear: I believe in free speech.  I believe in healthy, respectful debate.  I believe that Jews must stand up for what is right and just.  And, yes, I believe that Jews have a right to respectfully and fairly critique Israeli policy.

This being said, when I read about Jewish leaders standing with and supporting those who are openly committed to the destruction of the Jewish State, I am horrified.  When I read about and engage with rabbis who see nothing wrong with programs like PennBDS and actually think programs like this are good for Israel, I am stunned.   I am even more stunned when some of my colleagues go out of their way to fast for Gaza, but our own children of S’derot are ignored. Who is going to stand up for these children if we, the Jewish leaders, don’t do so? Furthermore, where was the BDS outrage this weekend when China and Russia blocked a Security Council resolution against Bashar?  Simply put, I fail to understand, am embarrassed by, and am, quite frankly, tired of having to explain to my congregants, the desire among some of my Jewish colleagues to aid those determined to destroy Israel.

Some advise me to bite my tongue and say nothing.  And I have often done so, afraid of offending.  Afraid of further alienating myself from the mainstream”, liberal Jewish community, afraid of being called names like “right-winger” or “hawk”.  These labels I can live with.  Being called, “ignorant” or worse, names like an “Islamaphobe”, “racist” or “murderer” – this I can’t live with.  So yes, at times I have been guilty of being silent because sticks and stones have broken lots of my bones.  I have been guilty of lurking in the background, listening, reading, quietly fuming.  But, as a rabbi of students at Penn and many other college campuses across this country, I realize that I am doing them a disservice by being silent.

I was once a college student.  And I know how confusing it is to have your spiritual homeland attacked and maligned on your campus.  In 1988, I was a freshman at Vassar College.  I grew up with very little Jewish knowledge – especially when it came to Israel.  During the first month of my freshman year, I was invited to attend an anti-Israel rally on campus.  I was told that Israel was doing “bad things” to innocent people.  I was told by organizers that I had to stand up for what was right!  My liberal, suburban upbringing had taught me to do just this.  My Jewish education was nonexistent.  So, I started to follow the organizers and stand up for the oppressed!  That was until a Christian senior student who was watching the organizers talk to me pulled me aside and lambasted me for a good hour.  She opened my eyes to the “other side of the story” and told me that as a Jew, I have an obligation to stand up for Israel and stand up for the truth.  I didn’t go to the anti-Israel event that day.  Instead, that day, I became a Zionist.

As I read about PennBDS, I remembered that day I almost protested against Israel and I feared that maybe I had not done enough for my students at Penn and elsewhere to prepare them for the hate they would face….

So, I asked my colleagues what was going on at Penn to insure that I could connect my students to organizations and people who were countering the BDS propaganda.  While, I received a wonderful e-mail from Penn Hillel, the majority of responses I received were questioning my problems with BDS.  Responses suggesting that I was too “closed-minded” and encouraging me to hear what is being said by BDS leaders.  I received responses that attacked those who attacked BDS.  As I read the responses, my heart broke because I was once a clueless college kid who could have easily been misled.  But today, I am a Zionist who knows a lot.  I know that Israel is being threatened and we have an obligation to stand up for her and teach our kids to do the same.   I know the strength of those out to delegitimize Israel.  And I know that we are not doing enough to stand up for her.

I know that Nobel-Peace Prize winner, Desmond Tutu, who openly supported PennBDS, supports the double standards that are an integral part of BDS: “Whether Jews like it or not, they are a peculiar people.  They can’t ever hope to be judged by the same standards which are used for other people.”  (Religious News Service, 28 November 1984)  I know that Tutu, like many in the BDS world, has invoked Nazi imagery to fuel the passion of his supporters:  “The gas chambers (of the Holocaust) (made for) a neater death (than apartheid resettlement policies)” (Gideon Shimoni, “South African Jews and Apartheid, “American Jewish Tear Book” (New York: American Jewish Committee, 1988) 51).

I know that Omar Barghouti, a prominent leader in the BDS movement praised Tutu last week in the Daily Pennsylvanian, calling him “among the most eloquent voices accusing Israel of practicing apartheid against the Palestinian people.”

I know that Barghouti is opposed to a two state solution, calling, instead for the “launch (of a) new visionary and practical processes that will lead to the establishment of a unitary democratic state between the Jordan and the Mediterranean.” (http://www.counterpunch.org/2003/12/12/relative-humanity-thie-essential-obstacle-to-a-just-peace-in-palestine/).  I know that what he and other BDS leaders really mean when they talk about freeing the Palestinian people is really the destruction of the Jewish State.

I know that while Barghouti is not busy dedicating himself to boycotting, divesting, sanctioning and delegitimizing Israel, he is a graduate student at Israel’s premier Tel-Aviv University.  When questioned about this double standard by Israeli paper Maariv, he has said: ”My studies at Tel-Aviv University are a personal matter and I have no interest in commenting.” He has also said that  ”Oppressed people don’t have a choice of where they go to school,” (Q&A session at Loyola Law School).

I know that Barghouti had plenty of choices. He was born in Qatar.  He grew up in Egypt.  He attended Columbia University.  He moved to Ramallah as an adult. He could have could have pursued his graduate degree at Birzeit University or Al-Quds University or any university outside of Israel.  But, he didn’t.  He chose Israel.  And he condemns the nation that is educating him, the nation he tells the world not to choose.

Many have asked Tel-Aviv University to expel him.  But, the university has said that:

“A university campus should be a place that encourages and tolerates free speech, no matter how offensive the expressed opinions may be to the majority of students and faculty at that institution, or indeed to the public at large. Our university has adopted a similar policy also in previous occasions..  The University cannot and will not expel this student based on his political views or actions. He will be assessed only on the basis of his academic achievements and excellence.”

This man who accuses Israel of suppressing Palestinians in the same way that the Nazis suppressed the Jews is supported by the nation he despises.  This speaks volumes to me.

I know that Ali Abunimah, the keynote speaker at PennBDS has written the following on his Twitter:

-It’s racist to think Jews need a special state and can’t live with other people.

-That is something Zionism shares with anti-Semitism, a disdain for actual Jewish culture and life as it existed.

-Supporting Zionism is not atonement for the Holocaust, but its continuation in spirit.

-Zionism is a distortion of Judaism.

As a Zionist, these tweets disgust me.

I know that Abunimah defended the fact that Hamas did not allow the ICRC to visit Gilad Shalit. (http://aliabunimah.posterous.com/is-israel-right-to-complain-that-hamas-has-de)

I know that Abunimah twists and distorts the facts by calling Israel’s right to defend herself genocide.

(http://electronicintifada.net/content/why-israel-wont-survive/7999)

I know that Abunimah is determined to bash Israel while calling for her demise, writing that : “change will come. Without indulging Israeli racism or preserving undue privilege, the legitimate concerns of ordinary Israeli Jews can be addressed directly in any negotiated transition to ensure that the shift to democracy is orderly, and essential redistributive policies are carried out fairly. Inevitably, decolonization will cause some pain as Israeli Jews lose power and privilege, but there are few reasons to believe it cannot be a well-managed process, or that the vast majority of Israeli Jews, like white South Africans, would not be prepared to make the adjustment for the sake of a normality and legitimacy they cannot have any other way.”

http://electronicintifada.net/content/israeli-jews-and-one-state-solution/8528

I know these things.  And this is why I don’t stand with BDS, don’t want to aid BDS, don’t want to give them a platform, don’t want to encourage anyone to believe that what they have to say will be good for Israel.  I want to support Israel.  And I want my college students to know how to do the same thing.  And I feel that we as Jewish leaders have an obligation to look out for our own and help them navigate through the delegitimization nightmare

Sadly, I know I will be attacked and labeled by some for sharing these things.  Accused of terrible things.  But I know that I can’t remain silent.  I can’t let my Jewish community, my college kids and their parents think that I endorse, support, condone any delegitimization of Israel.

This week, we read about the last three plagues to strike Egypt before our ancestors escaped the tyranny of Pharaoh. The ninth plague, was the plague of darkness.  ”There was thick darkness over the entire land of Egypt for three days. No man could see his brother, nor could any person even rise from his place for three days.” (Exodus 10:22-22)

We are taught that the darkness was not simply the result of lack of light, but also the presence of a thick fog that got worse with time. When the plague of darkness fell upon Egypt, people could not see. Within a few days, we are taught that the darkness was so thick that they could not even move. However, in the Jewish homes, the Torah teaches us that “there was light”.

I believe that the darkness of the ninth plague still persists in our world today. So many people walk around incapable of seeing the incredible world around them, incapable of moving forward and reaching their dreams. This is why Ramat Shalom is so important. Our community emanates light. It cuts through the darkness and the fog and breathes life and energy into each of us. I am so proud of the work we do here and so grateful to each and every single one of you who supports us and makes it possible to keep the lights burning brightly.

Sorry for the delay in posting!  Busy beginning to a new secular year!!!

I admit it – I have a bad habit of destroying the Chanukah story for folks this time of year – telling them that the miraculous oil story is just a legend.  This legend was developed by the rabbis in an attempt to downplay the real story of Chanukah that centers around the war the Maccabbees waged against the Greeks.  The Maccabbees were victorious, regaining the Temple that was captured and defiled by the Greeks.  In an attempt to purify the Temple, the Maccabbees “rededicated” (Chanukah means dedication) the holy structure by burning the Menorah (the seven branched candelabra) for eight days.  Why eight days?  It has nothing to do with oil.  It has to do with the fact that the Maccabees, having been forbidden to practice their Judaism while under control of the Greeks, decided to rededicate the Temple for eight days in honor of the last Jewish holiday that they were forbidden to celebrate: Sukkot, which lasts eight days.  Complicated, I know.  And very war-centered.  Can you blame the rabbis for coming up with the oil story!?

 

If this is all new information for you, I know the look on your face.  I have seen it many times.  Sorry!  But all is not lost!

 

Now that you know the “truth”, I want to point out that even without the oil, .Chanukah is still a miraculous story.

 

The Maccabees were a tiny group of Jews who should not have been able to defeat the powerful Greeks.  But they did!  And because of this miracle, Judaism survived and did not become consumed by Greek culture.   This story of miraculous survival repeats itself many times throughout Jewish history.  Despite tremendous powers that have raged against us, nothing has stopped the Jewish people.  This is a miracle.

 

As we light the eight lights of Chanukah, I encourage us all to think about the incredible strength, courage and faith of our ancestors who lived through extremely dark times – but did whatever was necessary to keep the flame of Judaism alive.  At this the darkest time of year, may the lights of Chanukah not only make our homes brighter, may they also remind us of the true miracle of the Jewish people: darkness cannot extinguish our flame.

 

This Chanukah – celebrate the real miracle of these eight days – the strength of our people!

 

May it be a wonderfully bright Chanukah for us all

Podcast of my sermon given on 12/9/11.  Whereas Muslims are obligated to submit to Allah and Christians must have faith in Jesus, Jews are expected to wrestle with G-d. This both challenging and extremely rewarding.  Listen here: Jews Wrestle With G-d

Have you ever heard something about someone and believed it – only later to realize that what you were led to believe was totally wrong?  Certainly all of us have been in this situation.  This is why Judaism vehemently prohibits all forms of gossip and what we call l’shon hara (evil speech).  “Gossiping” in Judaism includes sharing any information about someone else even if it is complimentary, even if it is true, even if the person being talked about would volunteer the information on her own and even if the intention of the “gossiper” is good.  Sharing information that appears to be harmless is equivalent to what the Torah calls “talebearing”, something forbidden in Judaism.

 

Most of us are guilty of “talebearing” on a regular basis.  And really, what is wrong with sharing non-secretive, complimentary facts about someone else?  This week’s Torah portion explains….

 

Jacob and his brother Esau have been estranged ever since Jacob tricked his brother out of the birthright – basically stealing what was rightfully Esau’s.  This week, Jacob decides it is time to make things good with Esau.  Jacob sends messengers to Esau instructing them to tell his brother that he hopes to reconcile with him.  The messengers return, saying: “we came to your brother Esau; he himself is coming to meet you and there are four hundred men with him.”  Jacob assumes that this means that Esau is coming to wage war against him.  The Torah tells us that Jacob is “greatly frightened”.  He prepares for the worst.  However, when Esau and his four hundred men arrive to meet Jacob, the Torah tells us that “Esau ran to greet Jacob.  Esau embraced him and, falling on his neck, he kissed him and the two of them wept.”  Jacob quickly realizes that the messengers had led him to believe something that was not true: his brother was not out to harm him.  On the contrary, Esau was also seeking reconciliation.

 

This story teaches us the dangers of “talebearing”.  When we share information about someone else that appears to be harmless, we can mislead people into believing something false about the individual being discussed.  Esau was coming to Jacob.  He was accompanied by four hundred men.  But, he was not coming to attack his brother.  “Talebearing” is wrong because, as we learn from the story above, even “facts” can be misinterpreted.

 

We must work hard not be “talebearers”.  It is not easy.  On top of this, today we must pay close attention to the dangers that e-mail and texting present us with – mainly the fact that our quick one-liners that are electronically transmitted from our smart phones or computers are easily misunderstood and can send messages about ourselves that we don’t intend to send.  How many times have you gotten a text or e-mail and incorrectly assumed from the message that the sender was upset with you?  While not “talebearing”, the perils of e-mail and texting remind us how powerful our words, both spoken and written, can be and how carefully we must use them.  If used well, our words can be holy.  When used without thought, our words can be weapons.

 

Unfortunately, our culture encourages us to use our words as weapons.  “Talebearing,” gossiping, making assumptions about others – these are part and parcel of our society.  But this does not mean we can’t rise above this negativity.  We can watch our words.  We can think before we speak/type.  We can refuse to listen to gossip.  We can get to know people instead of making assumptions about them.  And we can learn that there are times when it is just not necessary to speak.  “A knowledgeable person is sparing with her words.”  (Proverbs 17:27)

Last night’s sermon in podcast form.  Enjoy and get some sleep!

The Power of Sleep

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